Overcome Negative Self Talk with Encouragement

Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.

Dr. Joyce Brothers

How do you typically define yourself? Do you tell yourself as well as others that you are disorganized, financially challenged or simply not good enough?

What You Think About, You Bring About

Make a list of the positive and negative ways you describe yourself, both internally and to the outside world. Are they accurate or just a point of view? Look over your list of words and phrases and really think about how each of those definitions limits your ability to accomplish all that you deserve in life.

For example, if your list includes disorganized, think about how to make that a positive and tell yourself, "It may appear to others that I am disorganized, but I actually have the ability to multi-task."

If your list includes being clumsy, then examine it as a rational and mature adult and reframe it. Repeat in your mind and out loud until it becomes a belief, "Yes, it was clumsy to spill the milk when I was 10 years old, but it was an accident and it is time to forgive myself for knocking the glass over and my father for yelling at me.

"I know and accept that accidents happen to every one."

"I have allowed the thoughts of then to become a belief of now. But no more! I now think, know and believe that I am a competent and careful individual."

Why Use Words of Encouragement?

Encouraging words are like a gift of bravery, daring and confidence, giving you permission to take risks and to keep on trying. While it is important to give words of encouragement to others, it is VITAL to give them to yourself.

You are the master of your belief system and it is up to you to stop along the journey of life occasionally to give yourself a pat on the back. It is time to recognize that old tapes and negative thoughts in your head are no longer serving you.

Give yourself and others the beautiful gift of encouragement. Express those kind words and "atta-boys" many times a day. Acknowledge your successes and progress.

We are all incredible human beings with much to accomplish and enjoy in life so let's move forward in joy.

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